A simple exercise. Think of a person right now. We are trying to see how to erase this person from your memory, so make sure this person is close to you and have shared other than only happy happy moments in life..
Now hold on to this thought. Now lets try to erase this person completely. You will obviously start from the very last encounter or discussion you had. Then you try to reason out why you should delete this person.
You have to think of very few bad/ uncomfortable experience you might have had, or may be some joke either of you have cracked on the other person and are guilty of it. May be a promise you broke. Whatever it may be. Remember them all. You will feel a little down about few nasty things.
One by one try to remember them all, you may find it surprising there are more such memories than you thought. One by one erase them off. Try to forget. You may start to wonder - "what if"-and try to correct things that may have gone wrong. Now you may feel worse about your self. Still, try to erase those memories.
Now, you think about all the happy times, start to wonder, "were they all real"? Some how, you doubt if they were real. Try to remove these happy memories. If you feel it was easier to remember the nasty memories than the good ones, I dont think you will be alone. 'Coz that is my point. GOOD memories are made easily, effortlessly! Now, try to focus more on those good times. You will find them, ERASE them. By now, you will be feeling terrible about what you are doing, and why you are doing!
Eventually you will always end up at the first memory.
This FIRST MEMORY is now the LAST MEMORY of this person that you have!!
Erase it? Yes. But Before that, just live this moment. Fill all your mind with this very last memory that is left.
That memory you have is almost impossible to erase. Try as much as you want, your heart doesn't allow you to erase this memory. This one memory actually has the power to erase all the bad memories you might have had with any person, for real! and leave you with all the good things to remember. This first memory is a wonderful thing. Its like a broke tape recorder, it just plays on and on and on....
It is impossible to forget people who have given you such memories. Memories you would love to relive. That is the reason why I feel, no matter how advanced science gets, it will always be one step behind people who made science possible. Surely when it comes to memories of people, science will always be one step behind the will of people to hold on to the memories of people who matter the most.
The first memory is indeed the last memory you carry of such a person and this lasts for ever!
In a way, if you talk about the first memory you have of a person often in you usual conversations, it means there is something in you which already knows the people who are important to you! May be the reason why memories are made effortlessly. This is something which I feel is the reason for me to believe the very premise of erasing memory of a person who has truly meant something, is impossible!
P.S Now that reading part is done, spend some time actually doing this exercise. You probably might go through the widest spectrum of emotions and it is worth it.
